Ladies,

To bring life to our Girlfriend's Circle- Girl chat blog we have decided to invite women looking for answers to write in about how they are feeling and get the suggested help from other girlfriends. Each month we will post a letter from someone and invite others to chime in and add their thoughts to the discussion.

We find this will be a very healthy and effective way of getting free advice, wisdom, reactions, or thoughts from others who may have gone down that road or someone who just want to provide effective feedback. We will agree to disagree for not all advice is best for everyone however we appreciate all who decide to join the conversation to be respectful of others and their opinions.

Without further ado, here is the letter that we received:

Girlfriends,

I reside in Texas, and my boyfriend of 11 years lives in Ohio. We originally met when I was residing in Ohio do to my work, I was relocated to Texas. We discussed breaking off the relationship but I just did not want to let him go. We agreed we would continue our relationship until we could come up with other alterative on being closer together.

After moving to Texas, I found myself missing my boyfriend more and more. When I was available, it seems he was not. When I would inquire where he had been or what he have been doing he would tell me "Nothing" or say "I was working late". That is rather odd for a company that has been calling broke and could not offer over time when I was living close by. One day I decided to take a flight to surprise my boyfriend, I still had a key to his place, I decided to use it.

Upon entering the apartment, I felt uneasy; I did not find myself feeling like I have felt before. The place had an odor I have not smelled before. That is when I decided to take it upon myself and start looking around. I did not know what I was looking for but I wanted to know if something out of the ordinary was going on? I know he have female friends, I know they knew each other before I came along but I just did not feel like I once did before. The trust feels as if it was questionable.

Needless to say I found a box of condoms that was baffling for we stopped using condoms few years back. I found a hairbrush in the bathroom that was not my brush or hair in the brush. I also found one loop earring not resembling one I have seen before.

I feel as if I have violated my boyfriend for searching his home, but in the same token I feel he have found someone else to fill his desires while I am away. When he came home he was startled to see in his living room and demanded his key back. I was pretty much taken back by his reaction and needless to say that is not the reception, I was looking for.

I did not bring up to him that I had found all that I did, but I did feel like a crazed girlfriend that wanted to tear into him. I was very angered with his welcome and went to visit my parents. I have returned back to Texas since the incident and he have called me, I have not returned his call. I am not certain if it is of guilt of my snooping or knowing he maybe guilty in cheating on me.

Please let me know what you would of done.

Sonya.